Tagged: marriage

One good thing about being close to 40….

wild, woman, technology, before, party, woo hoo, young,

Image thanks to Smart Assy on Facebook


Weekly Writing Challenge: Dear Abby

The challenge:   For this week’s writing challenge, channel your inner Abigail Von Buren. Experiment with the question and answer format. Taking inspiration from a question you’ve been asked recently, whether in conversation with a friend or sent in from a reader, don your best counselor hat and share your expertise.

Dear Mrs.  I am getting married this week and I am unsure what to expect or how to go about being a husband.  Do you have any pointers or tips from your own experience to help me learn to be a good husband to my partner?

To Whom It May Concern

Hold their hand

But not too tight

Use your strength

But not your might Continue reading

Emotional Openness in Relationships

I thought I would do something  a little different today….

Emotional Openness in Relationships with the Mrs.

*disclaimer, I am not a doctor nor trained to give any advice on any professional level in psychology, if you need real help please seek someone with the proper credentials to do so, this is my personal voice, opinion and experience that I am sharing*

ImageEmotional Openness in Relationships

We must first understand ourselves and know what we truly want and need before we can expect another to learn how to do so with us.

Life affords us so many opportunities and chances to show the person that we love that they matter, that we need them.  That they alone can fill a place of dependence and reliance that no other can fill. Continue reading

The Clarity of Stone

My ring

Such a sparkly thing

It shines and glimmers

A flashy reminder of you

The cut, so precious and rare

Created for a love that you cannot compare Continue reading

Unwaivering Knowledge

To the depths of my soul

To all that makes me complete

From the top of my limits

To my grounded feet

To the unwaivering knowledge

Of the most certainty

A love that will span all of infinity

I will be yours

To explore

To the depths of my soul

Your love makes me whole


So deeply

So sweetly

So completely

Revisited the poem, 9 years of marriage

So today is my 9 year wedding anniversary. 

I won’t bore you with describing how fantastic of a friend, man, husband, father, son and brother that Alex is.  I hit the man jack pot when we met.

Marriage is such a funny thing. 

I’m reminded of a line in the movie So This is 40 (such a great movie, if you can laugh at yourself as a wife/woman or a husband/man and at relationships)

There is a line in the movie when the 2 men/husbands are talking about their wives and marriage and what it would be like if their wife died (peacefully of course, their rationalizing, women like a widowed man) and what their second wife would be like. This is all just light-hearted chatter between friends.

It went something like this “God, I can’t wait to meet my second wife, I hope she likes me better than the first.”
Even typing it out makes me laugh.

And so it goes with marriage.

If you can laugh at it, it means that you are aware of the realities in that statement and therefore you will see the ‘real’ issues that are being addressed and hopefully take action to better your relationship.

My marriage is firey and fun.  I love the peaks and valleys, the good times and the bad times, acknowledging that and embracing it gives me confidence that my marriage is real and tangible, there for it will stand solid in a very real way.  The hardships that you work through in marriage make you stronger.  

The more seasons that you have weathered together successfully, the more confident you feel when the next storm arrives.   Like a journey on a sailboat you have beautiful days and stormy days and that is expected of the journey.  Hopefully you’ve packed well, brought all of the emergency supplies and things that you will need and then you can feel safe and prepared for the journey ahead.

My husband has been sailing since he was a young boy.  He knows how to both prepare for the journey and sail through a storm and I’m thankful for that. 



Alex rowing me out for a morning sunrise at the cottage




A vast array

Of sentiments to say


But really it’s just another day

In our travels


Filled with seasons and temperatures

Wilted, about to fall,

A day so hot,

we need to shade ourselves


A commitment to time,


Paths chosen,




But always together

 Hand in hand

We walk


One step blossoming

One step faded


Our footprints have left a path

In many a place

 A shared look upon our face


 Take my hand

And take the lead,

I will follow you indeed.



Photo props: I didn’t ask Alex if he minded me using this photo, I hope he doesn’t mind appearing half naked for the world to see, maybe he will sue me..

Cheers to us babe!!

Happy Anniversary.