Well I think you’ll need to grab a drink, get comfy and settle in, it’s been a long time since I’ve updated on my life and status on this blog! There is so much to share about my personal journey and the changes that have gone on over the past few years.
From heart break and the break down of my marriage to the journey of finding freedom and personal independence being single, traveling Europe on a solo trip to then meeting the love of my life a fellow poet from the other side of the globe (England) and a whirlwind romance spanning many countries….from our first, month long date starting in Sydney, Australia with a Royal Caribbean cruise ending with us in England and spanning 6 countries. We got engaged at Aphrodites Rock in Cyprus four months after we started talking and celebrated it in Paris, France. It’s been so magical and rather apt for two poets I’d say.
However I’m not going to get into all of that just yet…but I wanted to share part of what’s been going on in my life to demonstarate the huge role that travel and FINALLY being able to explore the culture and history on this vast planet has made on me and my life.
There are two main positives from the end of my relationship that I am truly thankful for…having the ability to travel and explore areas of the world that I had always longed to go…however that first solo trip to my DREAM destination, Italy….a destination I dreamed of going to with my ex ….it had it’s challenges but also helped to heal the last bits in me that were still longing and mourning.
Honestly, it was a long hard process for me. I didn’t want to let go and I wanted to fight for my family. I considered leaning into my blog here again at that time but I wasn’t quite ready as this blog kind of felt like a shrine and an instant reminder of him and our past. Both the good and bad….I remember him telling me I was wasting my time blogging (even though this blog was on fire back then lol had I only known and kept with it…or come back to it….however all in divine timing right? and here I am now!) I also didn’t want to put too much out there through out the separation and divorce process so the family had privacy and time to adjust etc. Plus, I wasn’t ready.
I did how ever try out Instagram under the handle @writings_of_an_ex_mrs ….you can still find me there…encase one day I wanted to merge my writing platforms….a day like today I suppose… There I shared some poetry and that was part of how I processed my grief…and that also happens to be the very place that I met Leon, someone who understands the power of the pen.
Bringing me back to the two positives ….ironically enough the 2 first main destinations of my two trips were the top destinations on my ex and I’s travel bucket list. The second destination, his number one dream destination, was Australia and that turned out to be the destination I first laid eyes on my Leon when we both landed there for our first and forever date… gotta love the way the universe works things out. My great friend Jenn works for the Royal Caribbean so I didn’t actually choose Australia it was chosen for me. Hows that for irony.
This leads me into the second biggest positive of the ending of my marriage and that is meeting a partner that I can share my true souls passions and callings … writing and travelling… and being shown that someone out there would indeed actually CROSS oceans and MOVE mountains for me….and that is absolutely what Leon did.
So moving forward I will be sharing my typical blog posts such as this, along with posts of photos/videos from our adventures, outings, travels and travel hacks etc along the way.
Currently we’ve sold most things, left Canada in April 2021 and we’ve been touring Mexico since then. It’s been quite the journey and I’ve been loving every moment of it! I’m very much looking forward to sharing all of our stories.
I’ve started a YouTube Chanel for our travel videos it would be awesome if you could check it out and subscribe, like and comment….all that good stuff.
I’ve also started an Etsy shop called CloserLivesEmporium where you can find suitcases, back packs, masks and all sorts of home decor, stationary and apparel items. I’ll leave the link below so you can check it out!
It’s been thirteen years,
It was a year that
I realized my fears
A year that I thought
I may drown in my own tears
The memory of it
On my heart
burned so deep
I felt abandoned
And Scarred Continue reading
The air was frigid
Pungent with must
Odors of mold
Abandoned and untold
From her bleeding lips
Her wobbly hips
Do you ever lose the desire to write?
Not sure where to begin?
Has it been to the point that you have no desire to even pick up the pen or open up the laptop?
I never thought this would happen to me but it did. I have been writing for 2 blogs, putting together and communicating with others for collaborations like PAY DAY Pay it Forward Thursdays and Stuff it ‘Storetry’ Tuesdays all on top of managing a family with 8 children. Busy doesn’t quite cut it!
Now I’m sure you have read these pointers elsewhere before, it is the internet after all but I want to share some things that I realized this morning that helped me get out of my rut, especially when it comes to writing poetry.
Routine: Routine is so very important. I used to wake up, get the kids on the bus, make my coffee and go and sit on my sofa and read a few blogs. Then I would take a moment to write, which usually occurred during reading other posts or poetry, something would stir and the poetry would just come. My internet at home has been limited lately so I haven’t been able to read the morning posts so I haven’t even bothered to sit and relax in the same spot. I know that this has been a major factor for my lack of inspiration. Reading other peoples blogs and poetry for inspiration and sitting in the same spot at around the same time will surely help me with my muse less blues!
Music: Repeat/Replay: I also used to find my favorite song of the day and play it on repeat, kind of putting me into an inspirational trance. If I’m on a roll and the music changes then so can my flow, thoughts, emotions and ideas that get stirred by the song. I am a huge music fan so this definitely helps me. My music choice has been lacking in the morning because of my limited use of the inter net. I can’t You Tube my favorite songs right now so I guess I need to ‘pay’ iTunes a little visit or replay some older songs, like I did this morning. Voila!
Change your Self Talk: You are not suffering from writers block. Your muse has not left you high and dry! You CAN do this. You will do this. You’ve so got this! Self-talk is so important in our writing lives and in our day-to-day lives. Believe for good things in your life! Expect them. Even if when you say it aloud it sounds like the furthest thing from your actual thoughts, say it anyway. You have to start somewhere. Do not accept defeat. Make yourself believe it.
Write Anyway: This morning was the first time that I picked up a pen in a long while. I wrote two poems and when I reread them I thought, this is ‘crap’! And it was. It was completely uninspired and forced but what came after one or two ‘silly and uninspired’ poems was the poem below. Now whether you regard this poem as fantastic or not, is not really the point. The point is that I did. This poem ‘inebriated my dried out riverbed’. If you’re stuck on a prose project, write anyway. Write until it flows if you have to, change the topic or idea, move onto something else, grab a paper and write out a rant releasing all of your frustrations, then return and keep at it.
Stop Being Lazy: I mean this in the most respectful of ways but really! Get out of bed when you get an inspired idea for a blog or a few lines for a poem or a story or chapter for your book. Grab a napkin, excuse yourself and run to the washroom when out for dinner and write down your five lines. When it comes, it comes and if you let it fade away, it will. Especially for poetry! If it is a priority, then prioritize it!
Muse less Blues
Where is the depth of me?
I feel dried up like a cracked riverbed
Longing to be inebriated by my muse
To drink away these dried up blues
To come alive with vibrant hues
Clues to find the fountain of my muse
To cure these muse less blues
© Jennifer David (me) 2013
Stay inspired, keep writing! Continued success to you all.
The darkest of rains
Come at night when you sleep
Pouring down like the tears
While little children weep
I perch on the window sill
For the right moment to enter
Your dreams while you sleep
While I have loved my journey of blogging and writing so far, the one aspect of it that I wasn’t prepared for was how socially isolating it is! It can be weighty for your average social butterfly like me.
I love social media and corresponding and working with fellow artists through my blog. I email with so many people, Skype chat, we comment on each others blogs, Tweet and facebook and I have developed a great fondness for many of my readers and people that I collaborate with but it can still feel ‘impersonal’. Continue reading
After some time away and a fresh return Writings of a Mrs now has a new look and some exciting new ideas.
Oh and did I mention I am now a .com site!
I’m looking for guest bloggers to feature once weekly.
For those of you interested you will also see the return of ‘The Storetry’. I would like to have at least two more installments before releasing the first ‘Storetry’ Collaboration eBook!
I will also be continuing and showcasing Friday’s Featured Poet as well.
If any of the above interests you please see the tabs listed at the top of my main page for more information.
Please feel free to share your thoughts with me.
What do you think of the new look?