December 17, 2021

It’s not always so easy to forget

How am I so forgetful? Yet I always seen to remember you. The one thing I want to forget. Woman with dark hair wearing a black lace shirt with a smirk on her face — A piece I wrote back in 2019 (posted on my instagram)

I never ever thought there would come a time that I would get over my ex let alone find someone who could be as kind, romantic, playful and gentle. I felt like no one could ever ‘fill his shoes’ the bar had been set pretty high… and it wouldn’t even be fair to anyone to attempt a relationship. The few times I tried I ended things quickly just feeling discouraged. I considered myself lucky to had even had the opportunity to have a love like I had with my ex.

I felt these things and this way because I wasn’t yet fully healed.

I want to encourage you to be gentle with yourself. I say this all the time but it’s so true. Be kind. Be patient. Feel it all. It’s a process and it’s ok to feel everything that you do.

Grieving is a long and lengthy process and when a relationship ends that’s what happens. You grieve. The relationship. The memories. And the future you didn’t get to see. But through grieving we reach healing.

Let me reassure you if you’re still in this phase that one day it will indeed get better and one day when you least expect it you will understand why you’ve had to endure all that you have… all the tears, sleepless nights, hopelessness etc and if you’re as lucky as me you will one day understand why. Life indeed works in mysterious ways.

But until then.

I see you.

I feel you.

And you aren’t alone. 🙏🏼❤️