While I have loved my journey of blogging and writing so far, the one aspect of it that I wasn’t prepared for was how socially isolating it is! It can be weighty for your average social butterfly like me.
I love social media and corresponding and working with fellow artists through my blog. I email with so many people, Skype chat, we comment on each others blogs, Tweet and facebook and I have developed a great fondness for many of my readers and people that I collaborate with but it can still feel ‘impersonal’.
I wish I could see you.
I wish I could talk to you.
I wish I could have you over for a coffee or a tea or ‘it’s 4:00 somewhere’ early afternoon drink.
I still feel like something is missing at the end of it all. I miss the fondness and warmth that can be expressed through oral words, to hear the laugh or the passion behind a voice. I miss the depth that comes from eye contact and the warm gestures of touch.
I listen to my Mr. come home at the end of the day with his not so interesting ‘shop talk’ and I find mine lacking in comparison. We already know and learn quite quickly as writers that not everybody wants to hear about our blogs, books or poetry on a daily basis.
When it comes to actually writing, not blogging, it’s even worse. When you are inspired time just flies by as the words hit the page so it is not as noticeable. And yes, we have the comfort of our characters to keep us company but it is a lonely business, they don’t talk back.
I miss the social interactions of running a social club and organizations, I miss going for lunch and the sights and smells of the day. I miss the random bits of information attained, the smiling eyes of passerby’s (heck even the mumbling grumbles would do right about now). I’d even settle for the annoying, hovering boss right about now.
Thankfully, I have a large family and many friends and activities to keep me busy during the ‘off hours’. On some days too busy, those days you can hear me ranting about not having enough time to write! Longing for the solitude of writing.
Just consider yourself forewarned. If you are socially isolating yourself as it is and you are thinking of becoming a writer or blogger, I strongly encourage you to set up a system that will help you stay or to become invested in, community, a tangible, ‘real life’ community. Writing can be isolating and you run the risk of letting life pass on by. Be sure you continue to live while you write.
After all they didn’t say ‘it takes a village to raise children’ for no reason.
Be a writer.
Be a blogger.
But remember to be a villager.