Revisited the poem, 9 years of marriage

So today is my 9 year wedding anniversary. 

I won’t bore you with describing how fantastic of a friend, man, husband, father, son and brother that Alex is.  I hit the man jack pot when we met.

Marriage is such a funny thing. 

I’m reminded of a line in the movie So This is 40 (such a great movie, if you can laugh at yourself as a wife/woman or a husband/man and at relationships)

There is a line in the movie when the 2 men/husbands are talking about their wives and marriage and what it would be like if their wife died (peacefully of course, their rationalizing, women like a widowed man) and what their second wife would be like. This is all just light-hearted chatter between friends.

It went something like this “God, I can’t wait to meet my second wife, I hope she likes me better than the first.”
Even typing it out makes me laugh.

And so it goes with marriage.

If you can laugh at it, it means that you are aware of the realities in that statement and therefore you will see the ‘real’ issues that are being addressed and hopefully take action to better your relationship.

My marriage is firey and fun.  I love the peaks and valleys, the good times and the bad times, acknowledging that and embracing it gives me confidence that my marriage is real and tangible, there for it will stand solid in a very real way.  The hardships that you work through in marriage make you stronger.  

The more seasons that you have weathered together successfully, the more confident you feel when the next storm arrives.   Like a journey on a sailboat you have beautiful days and stormy days and that is expected of the journey.  Hopefully you’ve packed well, brought all of the emergency supplies and things that you will need and then you can feel safe and prepared for the journey ahead.

My husband has been sailing since he was a young boy.  He knows how to both prepare for the journey and sail through a storm and I’m thankful for that. 



Alex rowing me out for a morning sunrise at the cottage




A vast array

Of sentiments to say


But really it’s just another day

In our travels


Filled with seasons and temperatures

Wilted, about to fall,

A day so hot,

we need to shade ourselves


A commitment to time,


Paths chosen,




But always together

 Hand in hand

We walk


One step blossoming

One step faded


Our footprints have left a path

In many a place

 A shared look upon our face


 Take my hand

And take the lead,

I will follow you indeed.



Photo props: I didn’t ask Alex if he minded me using this photo, I hope he doesn’t mind appearing half naked for the world to see, maybe he will sue me..

Cheers to us babe!!

Happy Anniversary.


  1. tyler4turtles

    Happy Anniversary to you and your husband, Jennifer! Yes, marriage takes two to make it work. You and your husband must be doing something right! This June, my wife and I will be celebrating our 2 year anniversary. My grandparents will be on their 60+ year anniversary. I hope we can all be as fortunate and blessed as they have been in their marathon of a marriage 🙂

    • writingsofamrs

      I can’t wait! (but I can wait to be that old) 😀
      It’s the best part of my life, my marriage and my family.
      I learn so much from all of them and about myself because of them on a daily basis.

  2. MoonWynd Studio

    Thanks for stopping in to visit me. Best wishes for a great celebration day, and to many more decades to come. Hey, if you can survive a sailing trip together and both come back alive, you are doing well. (We too, sail; I know what I’m talking about!) /mw

  3. oldmainer

    Congrats on number nine. We just celebrated our 51st. I chalk it up to investing the time and effort to fix the things that break instead of replacing them.

  4. Jeremy Nathan Marks

    Congratulations on your anniversary and your happiness. 🙂

    My wife and I are coming up on four years in June and I sometimes can hardly believe what we have covered together in that or time or that I have known her for almost six years now.

  5. James Earl Wells

    First Happy Anniversary. I have been married for 29 years. Oddly enough to my second wife. My first one did not die but got bored with me. 🙂 Your tribute to marriage and to your love is a great testament to marriage and how strange and wonderful it cam be. I do not think your husband would object to the (half naked) picture as it helps us relate to you and the man you are talking about. Thank You for posting such a nice post. I hope you have many more anniversary’s.

  6. Comfortably Numb

    Happy anniversary and congrats. I havent even made it to my 1st anniversary yet and to be honest Im dreading it lol it just doesnt feel right somehow. Hopefully in 8 and a bit years I can write a post like this and prove myself wrong 🙂 congrats again xB

  7. Becky

    Jennifer, I really love the title of this poem. I feel like I revisit my marriage often, and I haven’t really described it that way before. Thanks for giving me something new to think about.

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